Asrock X670E Steel Legend AMD no start >32Gb RAM

I recently bought me a second mob cause the first didn't let me start win os either way. wrote Asrock support, became following answer:
    - Update BIOS to 1.30.AS05 for verification
    - Install the 2 DIMMs in A2/B2 slot for the best stability
    - Clean the slots and the gold finger of memory module
    - Re-install the CPU and make sure that it is attached to the socket properly
    - Leave only essential devices on the board (CPU/ Memory/ graphic card/ PSU),
      and check whether the problem only happens under Windows
    - If the problem only happens in Windows, please try to re-install the OS for
      verification if possible
     - Swap with another CPU for cross-test if possible
*Since CMK64GX5M2B6000C40 is sold as a kit with two DIMMs, we don't guarantee the compatibility of four DIMMs which not come from the same kit.

acutal bios 2.02, 32Gb dimm module A2 alone or A2/B2, alone ok, double same crash,
clean rebuild about 5 times,cpu works, took off several times all not necessary devices, happens also ubuntu, debian and others. hardware has been tested by computer service, all 100%.
pc doesen't run neither with two corsair CMK64GX5M2B6000C40 32Gb modules, only one.
I bought me 2 pairs of crucial CMK64GX5M2B6000C40 memory cards = 2x 2x 32Gb.
Now my question:
can anybody out there help me to find compatible memory cards to have at the end 128Gb RAM which I need cause running 4 to 5 VMWare workstations at the same time.
Does anyone have that experience and can kindly share it with me to bring this pc to work.
Have a great christmas time